How do i get my point across without sounding weird?
I am under the impression that it is common for close friends to give lingerie or honeymoon items (like flavoured condoms, handcuffs, etc) as a gift to the bride. Is there any way I can let my friends know that I absolutely do not want any of these items, without being too blunt about it?
“dmkogut”, I DON’T have any of these things, nor would I EVER!!!
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Just tell your Maid/Matron of honor how you feel. Since she’s throwing the party she can tell everyone else.
…just show them the collection of these things you already have. No one wants to buy someone something they know they already have!
Put it on the invitation. Instead of BYOB, do not BMC (bring me condoms 
Their your friends, they’ll understand.
Are you doing the traditional bridal shower, or are you having a spa-type gathering? At the latter, it should be no problem, but honestly, if they think you’re weird for not wanting a bunch of silly novelty gifts at your shower, THEY’RE the weird ones! Just tell your Maid of Honor. It’s her job to deal with that sort of thing.
If they are your close friends, just tell them your feelings about that. However that does sound a little weird, so I don’t know if you will be able to avoid that.
never say never…but also be gracious if someone gives you a gift, nowhere does it say you have actually use them 
Well, honestly, I don’t know of anyone other than very close friends who would buy these items for a bride. Perhaps you could just mention to a few of them, (try to be sure to include the ‘chatty’ ones ) that you hope people will only buy you the items on your gift registers, as you hae really put alot of time into your choices. Make sure you have registered at several places and have chosen gifts in a broad range of prices. Hopefully, this will be all that you need to do. Also, for your bridal showers, you can have a specific type of shower, kitchen, honey do, or even ’stock your bar.’ I know there are other kinds, I am just drawing a blank right now.
It is okay to be blunt about it. I told my MOH, “If there is a stripper at my bachelorette party, I will walk out.” She tried to talk me into a couple times but was very respectful. You can let the person in charge know that you don’t want any of these things. But if someone should happen to give you such a gift, don’t feel disrespected, they may not have gotten the memo. And know they just are doing it in the spirit of things.
Why not be blunt? If they’re your close friends, they’ll understand and have a good laugh. =)